a 12 step program for each of you. As Sharon said, even if he doesn’t go, YOU need it for support. There is a wonderful 12 step program called Celebrate Recovery. Here is their website and you can find out if there are any meetings in your area …. There is even a movie coming out next month that features CR. It is a cool deal.
About bank accounts. My sil (dh’s sister) had a bank account she let her dh have access to. After cleaned her out for a night of drinking, she went to the bank. They said she could either close that account or they could put a flag on that account stating the she was the only one who could get money out of it. That is what she did so she wouldn’t have to start over with a new account. This is something to keep in mind. You could have it so that your dh could deposit money but not get any out, if you decided to let him have some kind of access.